Common Substances: Reality Check

This page helps you see what substances often promise vs. what they actually cost. Use this with DBT Pros & Cons and ABC PLEASE (Avoid mood-altering substances).

What People Feel They Get

  • Relief from anxiety, stress, or emotional pain
  • Escape from difficult feelings or situations
  • Energy, focus, or motivation
  • Sleep or relaxation
  • Connection or social ease
  • Pleasure or reward
  • Numbness from trauma or overwhelming emotions

What It Actually Costs

Sleep

Disrupted sleep, insomnia, poor sleep quality, sleep debt that increases vulnerability

Anxiety

Rebound anxiety, increased baseline anxiety, panic, withdrawal anxiety

Rebound

The problem often comes back stronger after the substance wears off

Coordination & Functioning

Impaired judgment, coordination, memory, decision-making

Cravings

Using creates more cravings, making it harder to stop

Relationships

Conflict, broken trust, isolation, damaged connections

Health

Physical health problems, mental health worsening, overdose risk

Self-Respect

Shame, guilt, feeling like you're not living your values

DBT Skills That Help Instead

Remember

Substances often promise relief but create more problems. DBT skills can meet the same needs without the costs. If you're struggling with cravings, go to Cravings Right Now.

Common Substances (PDF)